Thursday, September 16, 2010

What do you say?

So today, one of my closest friends called me to tell me that her friend got horrible, devastating news yesterday.  Her little boy has cancer.  The bad kind.

(pause, breathe)

I've met this friend, and her little boy.  I actually didn't hold him when we were visiting because babies tend to SCREAM when they are in my arms (also they scare me, because they are so small and I drop small things a lot -- you know, cellphone, keys etc... so yeah didn't hold him).

But what do you say?  I don't even know what to say to my friend, and its not even her child.  I am the kind of person who wants all the facts.  When K's mom had cancer, I needed to know EVERYTHING.  I am sure that it drove her nuts, and she probably thought I was insensitive, but when I see a problem, I want to find out solutions immediately.  It's how I deal.

This cancer is one that I am familiar with.  While I have never experienced it first hand, I have read, researched and cried about it on more than one occasion.  And while I dont know her very well, I feel like I can be of some support, and I want to.

But what would you say?  What would you send?  I also need to be there for my friend, but I don't know what to say to her either...

cancer sucks.

1 comment:

  1. i'm sorry em! i would just offer to help out w/ things that might get forgotten in the shuffle of doctor & hospital visits - dinner, errands, etc. are they located near you? maybe some fun stuff for the boy to do during hospital stays - little toys & games, books?